If he does this all the time with you it means that you are antagonising him sexually (really exciting him). If he does it once in a while, something must have really excited him either you (your attire or your behaviour) or someone else (like a sexy woman, or some sexy scene).
You do not mention of she loves you. Does she? How serious is that love. Many women can separate love from sex, and surely she appears to be one of them. You have to find out why she has had so many sex partners. It is only then you can assess whether to continue the relationship with her.
A lot of the posts on this board relate to a man wanting to see his wife with another man (or men). I have written on this issue here and there, and would like to give more details.
Let’s be clear. Those men want to see their wives having sex and nothing but sex. Pure raw sex. Women should be aware of this. No emotions, no relationships allowed.
Why do some men like to see their wives with other men? The first category of men is proud of the sexual prowess of their wives. Normally those wives have a strong personality and do take control of sexual activity. They take both mental and physical control. So their men want to see them taking control of other men, “milking” their penises to the last drop and annihilating them. Having sex with them till they are incapable of more sex. Men are proud of such women and feel that they want to show off that they are married to such a woman.
The second category of men wants to pleasure their wives in letting them having sex with many men. They are aware that they alone are incapable of fully pleasuring their women, and they need the help of other men, many men. These men know perfectly that the woman is the stronger sex (sexually speaking) and is capable of so many orgasms while they (men) are normally incapable of having more than one orgasm at a time. The woman can have sex for hours while most men stop after their first orgasm which normally takes anywhere from 5 to 15 minutes (not counting foreplay).
The third category of men feel that all women are whores and whores are made to be had. These men may also feel that a whore has to be punished (sexually) and she requires vigorous, harsh and strong sex. The more men she can take the better ---i.e. that more of a whore she is.
It is difficult to say which category prevails, and sometimes a man may fit in more than one category. Literature and surveys on sex do not clearly tackle this issue, but accounts of men in many cases do put them in one category or another. From my readings and my practice, it would seem that the third category dominates. That is, may be most of these men consciously (but mainly subconsciously) view women (and their wives) as whores. Why do I say so. In most of the accounts from men and women, after such an encounter (when it is realised) or even when in fantasy form, the man calls his wife (or partner) whore, slut, bitch, when he is doing her.
One important question: Do men prefer to see their wives with ONE man only, or with many men. From the surveys on fantasies I have read, and from my own survey, the second option is more predominant. That is, men want to see their wives with many men, and not just one man. The reason is obvious and we have just to refer to the categories above, which presupposes that many men are involved. It is important here to stress that a man wants to see his woman just having sex, and nothing but sex, so this is fulfilled with the number of men she beds. If she has sex just with one man then there is a possibility that real emotions are involved and not just sex. So men do want to see their wives, taken by many men, gang-banged, taken by force, etc…
A man who loves to see his wife taken by other men, is impatiently waiting to join, or to take his turn. He would plunge on her and ravish her, taking her like a bull, a tiger, and like an animal. Once finished he would cede his place to another man, mentally fired up waiting for his turn to take her again. If it were a fantasy (that is de does not see her in reality but listens to her narrating a real even or a fantasy event), once he has orgasmed, he would attempt to continue taking her. His mental excitement may over-power his physical weakness and may be able to achieve another erection within a few minutes after he has orgasmed.
Most women report that after they have let their husbands see them with other men, or when simply narrating the events (or fantasy), the husband do them like never before. Most say it was the best performance ever by their husbands and the best sex they ever had.
Where does the woman stand in all this? Some women may welcome their husbands’ desires to have them have sex with other man. They may feel that they need the variety or that extra spice in their lives. It is a fact that being with two or more men is women’s favourite fantasy. So these women, can have sex with many men without guilt as their husbands want it. Yet a lot of women may feel confused and lost. It is normal for those women who cannot separate love from sex to feel confused. If there is love between the married couple then they ask themselves “how on earth does he want me to have sex with someone else.”
It is time to separate fantasy from reality. While in most surveys I have read and in my own survey, sharing a wife with other men is a favourite fantasy, not more than half of these actually have this fantasy realised. In some cases it is the other way around. An event happens whereby the husband saw his wife having sex with another man (or men), and it develops into a fantasy.
When a husband accidentally sees his wife having sex with another man, and if the sight excites him, he is gripped by “sexual rage.” It is anger at first, but anger very soon accompanied by absolute excitement. The result is very rough sex, sex to punish the woman. Subconsciously most women do love rough sex, but here the husband may be too rough, too harsh and may cause her physical pain as he behaves like a maniac with the picture of that other man (or men) in his mind doing his wife.
It would be interesting to hear from both men and women who read this board, but particularly women, who have experienced being shared, to discuss her feelings about the issue, the problems encountered and also if the event made her husband a bull and increased her sexual satisfaction. It would be interesting also to mention, if clear, what category does the husband (or partner) fit in.
I was about to leave. Good to see your regular weather report. You must be living somewhere in the heart and northern part of USA. After a number of times, anal intercourse becomes spontaneous. Once the woman gets used to it, her anal ring does not contract to block entry.
Your wife has progressed well and you are enjoying the repercussions of her fooling around with her friend. Normally the main issue when a person indulges in extramarital sex, is the ability to separate love from sex. Here she is indulging with the same sex. So the problem that may arise in being with another man, is not an issue here. I presume that her relationship with her friend is purely sexual. I do not think your wife is in love, or will fall in love with her friend. Even so, if you receptive to her being with another woman, there should be no problem.
You changed your name or are you having problems to log on, like I am having?
You are progressing. You can never appreciate the joy of being open and receptive to your husband. The more accessible you show him to be the more provocation you create. Next time he tries to flirt with you in public in the presence of your friends, let him.
Hi guys. I have not given up on this thread. I am having problems in logging on! Each time I manage to log on, when I post, it does not accept the post saying that the Moniker is taken, and I find myself logged out. It happened so many times that I found it a waste of time to post here.
Don't worry about it. You enjoyed it and that's what counts. Later when you fully regain your senses it is normal that you may reflect back and start analysing what happened. Just let it go.
